When It’s Time to Change


I had something totally different planned to share with you today. I had a post all about life satisfaction and figuring out where you are at.

But then I was sitting here reading Johnny B. Truant’s manifesto, How to be Legendary, and its making me want to jump up and down yelling YES! THIS!!

I think instead I want to talk to you a little bit about stepping up to the plate and changing your life.

So many times people talk about wanting to change something about their lives… and then they don’t.

They stick with the status quo because it safe and it gets them by, but it wears them down.  After a while the either become apathetic and unhappy, or sometimes … and not nearly often enough… they hit a bottom and something has to change.

I am just as guilty as anyone else. I have fallen into the safety of the status quo more than once. And I have also stepped up and changed my life. Sometimes drastically, like when I got divorced and moved 1000 miles away from everything I knew, and sometimes more subtly, like going through a 2 year spiritual training the changed my life from the inside out.

The “pick up and start life fresh” approach certainly takes courage! But what a lot of folks don’t realize is that the subtle “from the inside out” change takes just as much, if not more, courage.

Changing your life is NOT for the faint of heart!

With the first kind, you sort of know what you need to do to make things work, but with the second, you have no idea. Life shows you things that you don’t expect, and may not really want to see. You can’t hide from it, even if you want to.

When it’s time for things to change, I am of the opinion that it’s better to step up and engage with change – even when it’s hard, and scary, and uncertain – than to let it happen TO you.

THAT is what I want. Real, engaged, messy, trial and error, change.

So what about you?

Are you ready to step up to the plate?
Yes? Good  – keep reading.
No? That’s ok too. Change doesn’t stick as well when you aren’t ready, but you can keep reading anyway.

Are you scared?

Will it be all sweetness and cake?

Will it be fast and easy?
Hell no.

But will it be worth it?

Are you ready to step up to the plate?

Next week we’ll talk about life satisfaction and how to know where to start. But for now,  I am inviting you to sit with this whole idea of subtle, deep change and where it can take you.

Also… this…(sorry)


  1. Ellie Di on September 13, 2012 at 7:27 am

    YES! ALL OF THIS! <3

    • Tina on September 15, 2012 at 11:16 pm


  2. gina on September 14, 2012 at 11:08 am

    It so takes strength and courage to change…….it’s funny how if we’re stuck and want to change, we’re miserable, then if we think about changing, that can cause so much fear…..but the end result which will leave more lasting happiness? guess if we answer that then we can choose………thx Tina….enjoyed reading this 🙂

    • Tina on September 15, 2012 at 11:19 pm

      Thanks Gina!

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