I know that it can be hard to see how something like coaching can apply to you, so I asked my client Sarah, if she would answer a few questions about her experience working with me.
Sarah had been divorced about 5 months when we started working together and was dealing with a lot of emotions around the divorce and her new status as a single mom.
Here’s what she had to say…
I knew I was in the middle of something I couldn’t handle by myself and that I needed to speak with someone else for good ideas on how to move forward. What I was doing wasn’t working.
I’d had counselors before, but never a coach. I didn’t know what coaches did, precisely, but thankfully I do now because it’s not the same thing. A life coach can give you perspective and ideas. It’s all about looking at things in new ways.
What were you struggling with / feeling stuck on when you first reached out to me?
I was really feeling like my divorce made me a bad person, like I was hurting my parents, friends and daughter all for my own selfishness. I felt like God wouldn’t approve of what I’d done so that really left me with no one to talk to.
What was the most surprising/ transformative / life-shifting part of your experience with me?
There was a distinct moment when I said to myself, “You know, it really doesn’t have to be this way. I don’t want to choose this anymore.” We both celebrated.
Tell me about the shifts that you recognized during our time together?
I’m a quiet person but I really put myself out there making friends – I’ve expanded my circle and I know how not-alone I am. I see that I can bring something to other people’s lives in that way.
Tina also had me give up saying “Sorry” in prayer over Lent, which was radical for me. I wasn’t always successful but it really made me reframe my patterns.
And measuring things against how I actually want to feel was revolutionary. Do I want to feel stuck and unlovable? No? Then it’s time to change.
I’m reprioritizing the things that make me happy, bumping them up. I’m taking a new job that’s not without risk but definitely exciting and I’m saying “Yes” to more experiences when I’d normally stay in my comfortable homebody rut. And I know that when I don’t have what I need, I have the tools I need to get help or perspective.
Tina brought love to my life when I really didn’t believe that was possible. She was the second set of eyes I really needed.